Don’t try to recreate peak experiences. Instead, just accept them as the gift...– Abraham Hicks (via joyyoga)
Revive that loving feeling - Not For Them - For...
Q: How do you keep that loving feeling? Or at least not harbor any ill feelings toward a current relationship or a past relationship? A: In the beginning of a relationship we are more likely to focus on the things that we like about another person, they are so vivid! We are also probably hopeful and expect things to go well, and there’s usually an eagerness about spending time...
I Like You, But I Make Me Happy.
Q: Recently dating, having fun, getting to know each other. For example, we just spent a day hiking, kissing near waterfalls (seriously), eating good food, walking in a new town when he asked me, “Do I make you happy?” I didn’t know how to respond, my gut said no, and not because I’m unhappy. Can you help me understand this? A: Happiness is something that only we can...
Disappointed In Text
He sent a hello text from work at 10 pm, she said hi back, he asked if she was still up, she took it to mean that he would like to engage, she replied with a looong text describing her favorite things of the last 48 hours and some of her dreamy ideas, “Still thinking about the sexy time we shared yesterday in the____ & on the ____, the way you held me in the middle of the bridge,...
restless or inspired dating & decision making
Perfect summer night, restless single girl. They had a second date set up for tomorrow, she mulled over calling him back to see if he wanted to move the date up and see a movie in an hour, or she could call a friend to see the movie. Neither option felt like a completely clear idea so she paused. She had learned that it was more fun to go into something inspired than move forward when she felt...
Sexy town or annoyed? - The laundry and life with...
Sexy sexy. Breaks screeching! But what about that pile of laundry?! When you fell in love you saw primarily the things in him or her that evoked a feeling of love from you. If now a pile of laundry left on the floor bothers you, learn how to not let it bother you. Many relationship books will tell you to talk about the annoyance, or come up with a system, I’ve learned from experience to...
get happy. smell good. whatever pleases you.
I discovered perfume recently, and now I’m a lush. I’ve been wearing it everyday, and at night to bed. I’ve skunked myself too, I’m still learning how to apply. My friend who has been collecting and wearing perfume forever has been giving me things to try and coaching me. It’s been fun. I wear it when I sleep alone. I wear it to the grocery store. My true love is not...
Here are some ingredients I’ve found useful for meditation. Why meditate? Good Q. Because it will reduce your active resistance between your now reality and what you want in life or love. You will feel better and attract more that feels good in your life. Do I need to go to a retreat, do it for hours, or chant? No. Ready? 1. Sit comfortably or lay back (no need to pretzel), 2. Set a timer...
The good break up
They split the rollover minutes, cancelled the Family Plan and moved on. Emotionally it was also easy. She had recently (past few years) decided not to buy the idea that relationships had to be hard or that breakups had to be hard. She had reset her thinking on the topic, and was determined to focus in ways that made her feel good. Knowing now that she couldn’t manage anyone else’s...
What's better than sex?
Sex is great, when we’re in the zone, out of the zone…no thank you. “I think I’d rather clean the fridge today,” she says to her friend. She was serious. She met a guy, went on a few dates, and decided it wasn’t the right thing despite her longing for a great romp in bed. We can’t do wrong, but sometimes cleaning the fridge (or anything else mildly...
Slouching & Sexy Surrender
I got really comfortable in the big red armchair and set my timer for 15. I smiled as I deliberately thought of the feeling of ease and how it’s taken practice. What does meditation or ease have to do with great relationships? For starters think of what makes for great sex? It usually doesn’t happen after a habit of carrying the world on our shoulders for a lifetime or even a day....
We are writing our lives moment by moment, by our general expectations, and the...– sibene
How to have fun with strangers
Try an experiment: watch how people respond to you doing everyday things and note your general mood at the time. This morning I achieved a feeling of optimism and general satisfaction - 3 cups of coffee, 2 pieces of toast with butter and cheese, but most importantly I made it a point to appreciate the sunshine out my windows, plus an invitation to comment on a start up in L.A., and anything else...